Cramming becomes synonymous with IQ, and overachievers are always applauded. The fact that it does matter is because of the entire system employed by the country. What most parents should be asking is not “How intelligent is my child”, but “In which way he is intelligent!” Emotional aspects of a child’s relationship with his environment, family and peers are almost never taken into consideration. EQ remains the most neglected area, when in fact it is the most important.
Does it really help to have a genius who is totally out of his element when interacting with society? Too much pressure to cram and do well in exams and social situations leads to just that–pressure. When creativity remains buried, boredom soon results in anger. When emotions are not verbalized, they can wreak havoc internally. The mind is a strange tool and at an impressionable age, even more so. Teenage angst isn’t just rebellion. It’s a cry for help–for attention to a problem parents have simply ignored. It’s a feeling of insecurity which can be rather dreadful at that transitory phase between adolescence and adulthood. A heartfelt talk would be ideal. But when the child’s psyche is badly hurt, it might have to go far beyond that. Counseling can help. Still, the best way out is to avoid it altogether. By good old fashioned value systems and loads of unconditional love.