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Frigidity

Frigidity–Breaking through “Cold” barriers

Frigidity

“A woman’s life is wonderful once she is married. The warmth and affection which she gets from her husband can be substituted by none other. She is now a complete woman”. Such are the stereotypes which are fed to us from the time we can comprehend the ideology of marriage. Sex, the thought of it, and the practice are either taboos or then camouflaged behind the legal stamp of marriage. One somehow always relates to the fact that a woman is always satisfied physically, even if she may be having any other problems. The truth of the matter is somewhat very different. Women are more times than none either sexually unsatisfied or then totally closed towards the idea of sex.

The word FRIGIDITY is stated in the dictionary as “Very cold” and “Without the warmth of affection”. This one word chats a detailed journey into a problem which is now being studied by professionals as one of the more dominant problems in the women of today. Frigid as a word, is only in context to women and can be categorized in the list of sexual disorders. Sexual disorders are dominantly mental, and frigidity being one, needs psychiatric therapy.

Frigidity can be brought on by various situations some of which are: lack of knowledge of sex, confusion in comprehending the truth, sexual dissatisfaction, lack of self confidence, fatigue, and monotony in the routine of the act itself. “Sex is an expression of emotions” says Dr. Superna Telang and she explains how emotions such as warmth, love and affection and lack of such are motivators in bringing on this mental disorder.

Telang has a case history to narrate. Meena and Suresh share a perfect relationship and they come across as a happy, satisfied and emotionally balanced couple, till one day when Suresh approaches his family and informs them that he can no longer stay with his wife. After a lot of cajoling and coaxing he finally confesses that in spite of having fathered two children, every time he initiates contact with his wife, she covers her face with a pillow and screams in agony. He was patient for almost 11 years and now could not put himself or her through this torture. The family suggests therapy for the couple. When the therapist analyses the case history he is perplexed at first since Suresh tells him that Meena is very responsive and even initiates the foreplay. But that is all. As soon as it comes to the consummation she changes completely and starts to yell.

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