Benign Sexual Headaches – What are they ?
People suffering from benign sexual headache–also known as benign coital headache or orgasmic headache – describe sudden, intense pain near or at the moment of orgasm. The pain remains intense for five to fifteen minutes, though some people report pain lasting as long as two days. Pain can occur with intercourse or masturbation, and may happen infrequently, or every time a person approaches orgasm. Men and women of all ages have reported suffering from these peculiar headaches, but people over the age of 40 are more prone to it. When the first headache strikes, the sufferer stops copulating or masturbating and rests quietly in agony. Most are worried that they might have something seriously wrong in their heads, and many seek medical advice soon afterwards.

Doctors have identified three types of benign sexual headaches:
Dull
Headache The dull type of headache starts as a dull ache that intensifies with increased sexual excitement and gradually subsides once sexual activity ceases. People with this type of headache may not even make the connection between their pain and sex, and are less likely to seek medical help.
Explosive
The explosive type of benign sexual headache is characterized by sudden, intense pain just before or at the moment of orgasm. This is the type most often seen by doctors.
Postural
This rarer type is called postural headache. Like explosive sexual headaches, postural headaches begin with intense pain at orgasm. The pain then subsides, but reoccurs when the patient stands up.

What is the cause ?
Doctors haven’t determined the exact cause of benign sexual headaches, though they are classified with other headaches brought on by exertion. Because migraine sufferers are more prone to sexual headaches, some doctors believe sexual headaches may be related to vascular changes brought on by physical activity, such as exercise and sex. Other researchers believe stress and fatigue may contribute to or trigger the onset of benign sexual headache. While you are experiencing benign sexual headache, there is little you can do to ease the pain.

However abstaining from sex for some time may help .Once your doctor has diagnosed benign sexual headache, he may prescribe a period of inactivity. Abstaining from sex for a period of two or three weeks often eliminates a patient’s predisposition toward recurrence of benign sexual headaches. Some people find that taking anti–inflammatory drug such as ibuprofen, prior to sexual activity can prevent benign sexual headaches. If abstention or ibuprofen doesn’t work, your physician may prescribe a short course of propranolol (Inderal).

Though painful and sometimes frightening, benign sexual headache doesn’t mean an end to a satisfying sex life. Understanding and proper treatment usually lead to a permanent cure.

Too much sex: is there such a thing?
Is there something as having too much sex? This question is often posed to most counselors and sex therapists, and their answer always is that as long as you are comfortable physically and your partner is comfortable you can have as much sex as you want. However there are some physical limitations to this fact also. Men can’t be aroused for a while after they ejaculate, and some women get a stomachache after a lot of sex.

Too much sex’ happens when there’s a discrepancy in sexual desire; if one partner is simply wanting more than the other. Another type of ’too much sex’ is the kind of sex they may be having. Putting aside clinical problems of sexual addiction or sexual compulsiveness, the optimal frequency of sex is defined by each couple, not by sex therapists or the media. Problems can arise if there is poor communication. For example, if a man wakes up ready for sex but his partner isn’t a “Morning person”, sex can become a source of tension and a turn–off at any time of day. Or one partner may be unsatisfied with sex because she needs more caressing and foreplay. In these cases, people must communicate their needs, or sexual encounters can become dreadful.

There is no such defined statement of the phrase “Too much sex”. What’s good for society is good for couples too. Although the whole focus should be on compatibility, that is what is not talked about at all. The media just harps on about inconsequential subjects and conveniently leaves out matters which need addressing. Thus the bottom line being that if your sexual relationship is healthy (for you), if you’re emotionally tuned into each other and if your hearts are as much in it as your bodies, then there is nothing as too much or too little sex for you. You are in perfect balance.