How to Overcome Psychological Problems?
People often blame their destiny or their past for anything unpleasant that occurs in their life. Here are a few steps on how to take charge of your life, suggested by Sangita Thakur, psychologist and hypnotherapist. It may sound unreal but it is a fact that you can run your life if you really want to. Running your life means taking charge or control of it and trying to achieve what you aimed at achieving in life.
It also means trying to take control of the sad moments–working towards reducing frustration, depression, rejection and handling failures in life.
After finishing her graduation, Babita S was completely confused. She did not know what to do next. She could not decide whether she wanted to get married, work or continue her studies. If it was marriage, then she could not make up her mind about the kind of man she wanted to get married to–should he be loving, handsome or rich? If she decided to work, she would get confused about the kind of job she wanted to do, how to look for one, and/or whether she would enjoy working. Similar types of questions about studies would also arise in her mind. In order to get rid of her confusions, she came to the clinic for help. Within two months she was able to take charge of her life.
Rama T is 14 years old. Her parents often have arguments and keep on blaming her for it. Her mother often nags and screams at her, without any reason. She even threatens to kill herself if the daughter does not behave according to her wishes. Her parent’s behavior made the girl lose her self–confidence, remain aloof, depressed, suspicious and aggressive. She approached the clinic and within a period of five months she could run her life smoothly. It is not easy to start running your life but it is also not difficult to do so as long as you are ready to take the facts into consideration.
Below are some tips to run your life which have to be followed in serial order:
Know thyself
Know what and who you are. For example are you selfish, moody, have adequate intelligence, a strong personality etc? Also try to analyze why you behaved in a particular way in a situation. This will help you understand yourself in a much better way. Also, be aware of the positive (strengths) and negative (weaknesses) aspects of your personality. Do not always try to overcome your weaknesses, as it is not always possible to do so.
Be aware of yourself
Be aware of your feelings, desires, thoughts; how you eat, walk and talk. For instance when you walk, do you take big steps or do you move your arms. While conversing with another individual try to be aware of your tone, how loud your voice is, the style of speaking, yours as well as the individual’s facial expressions and reactions to the conversation. Such awareness during a conversation would avoid misunderstandings or if they occur, knowledge of the occurrence will make you overcome them.
An important point to note is that being aware of yourself is not being conscious of yourself. This can be explained with the help of an example. You are walking in a college campus where students are standing in groups. If you are conscious of yourself then you would notice whether your outfit, hairstyle and walking style is perfect. In trying to make yourself look better, you often become fidgety and are under tension. On the other hand if you are aware, you just know that you are walking past a group of students and as such there is no tension. Further, in being aware of yourself, when you realize with time the mistakes you have made, you try to control them..
