Being aware of your emotions
In being aware of yourself, you should also be aware when you become depressed, jealous, aggressive, frustrated and confused. You should also be aware of the degree of emotions expressed, why you are feeling a particular way i.e. the cause, how they are expressed and how they cause harm to you and to others. Once you are aware of the whys and how’s of your feelings, then you should work with them i.e. try to reduce or overcome them especially the negative emotions. Following are some of the ways to overcome negative emotions.
Autosuggestion
It means suggesting to yourself, what you should or should not do. The suggestion should be given at least six times a day for a week or longer depending on the degree of the negative emotion expressed and severity of the problem. Following are a few lines which Rama told herself on a particular day when she was in a low mood. “I will stay happy and make others happy. I have to be strong and practical and not let others ruin my life”. Autosuggestion can also stand for concepts like learning to develop a positive attitude towards life, overcoming traits like impatience and laziness. Find the cause of expressing negative emotions and then overcome it by solving the problem.
Evaluate
Find out the whys and how’s of feeling low, taking into consideration others’ points of view as well as facts. Analyze the situation in a positive way. You meet with an accident but escape unhurt: The cause was your reckless driving.
It is a well–known saying that ’marriages are made in heaven’, but though the person whom you get married to might be a stranger, whether the marriage will survive or not is not a matter of destiny. It is the effort made by the couple to make the marriage a success: The fact is no one is hurt. Both are at fault. So end the argument quickly which is a positive conclusion.
You should always take facts into consideration and accept the reality. Some of the facts are:
- Everyone has to die one day or the other.
- Every human being has to go through successes and failures in life.
- Every human being is unique in his/her own way. For instance, if, for a change, things do not happen your way even though you have worked hard and you feel depressed, take the second fact into consideration and take charge of your life instead of ruining it further.
Plan steps to achieve your goal once you have mastered the earlier stages to about 60 per cent. Move towards taking charge of your life by planning your goals. The goal can be anything from getting a job, getting married or becoming successful in your profession or achieving small goals like losing weight, organizing some function or asking your boss for a raise. While moving towards your goal, do take into consideration the role of destiny, where things happen because they have to happen.
If you move with your life following the steps given above, it could be said that you are become the boss of your life. No cyclone can ever blow you away, and you will always remain happy even though you have to cross the roughest and toughest paths to reach your goal.
